Boys with Girlfriends

Lesson I learned this week:
I should know better than to be friends with boys with girlfriends.

Yes, guys and girls can be friends with the opposite sex but I don’t believe they can be best friends or very close friends. If a friendship is headed for that direction it may be headed for some troubled waters…. esp if one of them is attached (to someone else). Through the last couple of months and my interactions with single men, taken men, and learning through other peoples’ experiences, I have come to the conclusion that a man can only have 1 leading lady and vis versa.

Why guys and girls can’t be best friends (unless dating each other or if both single)

A) One person always tends get’s crazy thoughts about the other (may be stated or go ignored but it is still true). But with close friendship there is a lot of emotions involved, a bond formed, and clearly there is some sort of compatibility…. Even if you are just exploring the friendship side. A relationship is over 50% friendship.
B) The sex part always gets in the way. No, not let sexual intercourse but if one or both of you finds the other attractive you are playing with fire, feelings and crushes begin to form. Revert to point A. (if you disagree with this statement because you have tons of friends of the opposite sex, that just means you are in denial that all of them are actually into you…..)
C) Even if both people are in relationships you would think the pressure of possible involvement is lifted, that there will be no issue with being just friends but nope…. Because the person you are involved with will never understand why you are close friends with someone of the opposite sex. They will accuse you of being attracted to them, which you probably are, and question if there is something missing from your relationship since you are reaching out to other people of the opposite sex…..
D) What if only one of you is in a relationship…. Again you would think it would relieve that pressure of involvement. But still nope. Innocent flirting, crossing the line here or there can lead to emotional cheating, feelings, and then who knows what else. Then the single person becomes the bad guy and the person in a relationship becomes the victim…

Now I am sure there are exceptions to this rule but just putting one of my crazy theories into text. What do you think?