First of all I want to start this post with the lines that this memorial day weekend has been just what the doctor ordered. Even though I had to work the weekend and the holiday, everything just seemed good. No stress, no drama, pool time, grilling out, fun times with friends and the roomie. I can sincerely say I had a good weekend. (I hope you all can say the same!!) But while I had a good weekend, I had a couple of friends that weren't quite as high on life.
It really just got me thinking. Life is a series of events, and with every event a person sets some sort of expectation. Its an innate behavior, we do it without even thinking. The awesome and sometimes sucky thing about life is you never know how it is going to turn out. Life can go either right or wrong, expectations can go above or below (okay maybe sometimes you hit it straight on but usually you're weighted more as either a Debbie Downer or an optimist). A person's reaction to the outcome of life events can be amazingly emotional. You can experience some of the happiest feelings ever or possibly some of the worst. And I am sure many of you agree one of the worst feelings in the world is disappointment.
Disappointment: a feeling of dissatisfaction that results when your expectations are not realized
Such a simple word with such a simple definition. But unfortunately disappointment doesn't feel so simple. It is one of those words you will never understand the true meaning until it is experienced.
Disappointment leaves a person questioning, why? That is what makes disappointment so confusing, because so much can hide behind disappointment. Failing a test=maybe you're just actually stupid. Getting dumped=Maybe you really are that crazy bitch he called you when you broke up. But what about the instances of disappointment where you can't control the outcome? You can always study to get smarter, you can always date someone else if you get dumped, but what if your best friend forgot to send you a card for your birthday? Or your boyfriend stood you up on a date. You feel low, you feel sad, and you know there is nothing you could have done personally to change the other person's actions. But WHY did they have to do that?
Whatever it is, every situation has a truth behind it but sometimes as a coping mechanism or maybe someone just doesn't want to get in trouble or be the bad guy- the truth can be masked with an excuse.... I forgot, I didn't know, I don't or didn't have enough time, not enough money, it just wasn't meant to be. But excuses just bandage the wound. "I'm sorry" can help mend the wound but only actions can heal them. What do you think the protocol is in terms of preventing disappointment from someone else's choices?
My only thought is the golden rule. Treat people the way you want to be treated and hope they do the same in return. Talk about everything... The good, bad and the ugly. If someone doesn't know how you feel how will they know to do keep up the good work or when they need to step up their game? And if they keep making you feel disappointed clearly something is wrong.
I hate liars. I think sugar coating things in life is over used and over rated and honest open communication is under used and under rated. I hate when people apologize when they don't actually mean it, and I hate flakiness. I know I have preached about this before in previous posts but I just want to reiterate that actions speak so much louder than words. Every life experience will end in some sort of result so why not do what you can to do to turn the expectation into a positive experience. Set the bar high, impress those Debbie Downers!
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Get them while supplies last
One of my co-workers got married this past weekend and always when someone around you gets married there is lots of "marriage" talk. During all this marriage talk the topic came up about how good women are hard to find these days.... If you find a good one, lock them down, there aren't that many good ones left. Ect..... They just kept going, digging their hole deeper. I just was like Really? is this happening?
Now keep in mind hopefully while this conversation was going on they were not thinking about how this topic made me feel. I'm mean honestly I don't think my coworkers would ever think of me as a bad catch but it made me wonder what they must think of me since I have been single pretty much the whole time I have worked with them, with basically no true prospects.
But what do men really think about females relationship status'. Obviously men are very competitive people and maybe this is the root of the whole issue.In a man's head, if a girl is a catch, she shouldn't be single in theory. If a girl is single, there must be a reason right?
If this concept is true, could it explain why guys fight over the same girls? Why some girls are able to go from one relationship to the next so easily but why other girls are serially single?
It's like this vicious cycle. The same girls always end up playing varisy, while the others sit the bench.
No man is ever going to fess up to this, and hopefully this is just a crazy theory I cooked up in my head. What do you think?
Now keep in mind hopefully while this conversation was going on they were not thinking about how this topic made me feel. I'm mean honestly I don't think my coworkers would ever think of me as a bad catch but it made me wonder what they must think of me since I have been single pretty much the whole time I have worked with them, with basically no true prospects.
But what do men really think about females relationship status'. Obviously men are very competitive people and maybe this is the root of the whole issue.In a man's head, if a girl is a catch, she shouldn't be single in theory. If a girl is single, there must be a reason right?
If this concept is true, could it explain why guys fight over the same girls? Why some girls are able to go from one relationship to the next so easily but why other girls are serially single?
It's like this vicious cycle. The same girls always end up playing varisy, while the others sit the bench.
No man is ever going to fess up to this, and hopefully this is just a crazy theory I cooked up in my head. What do you think?
Crafty Creations
With a new home, comes many Christy creations...
First project was a custom made shower curtain. Due to the fact my shower curtain rod is 7 ft high as opposed to the standard 6- ft the selection of attractive curtains were limited. Solution= sew one myself! This project took me forever, and by the end of this sewing project my dining room looked like a sweat shop and I felt like a factory worker. haha. Not only did I find sewing such a huge heavy piece of fabric a bit challenging, but it was also my first experience using/installing grommets. But in the end I think the shower curtian came out better than I hoped and I am very proud of this creation! 
Fabric Swatch:
Second project: curtains and pillows for my den. I have a couple maroon pieces of furniture my parents gave me and I wanted to play down the color a bit. I found fabric that I thought was fun, feminine, and colorful that incorporated lots of colors, including the maroon color of my furniture. The curtains were SUPER simple, and they look it. Nothing great about them... Probably the least favorite thing about my den are the curtains-but they work. I also made pillows to match. I wanted to make these look nicer since I was so disappointed with my curtains. One way I knew to do that was to match the fabric with a nice trim. While these pillows were not cheap to make in the end, they are exactly what I wanted. I'm happy with how the turned out.
As of now that are the only sewing projects I have tackled. I know more projects will come up. Right now I am playing around with a little bit of gardening for the first time.... We'll see how that one turns out.
First project was a custom made shower curtain. Due to the fact my shower curtain rod is 7 ft high as opposed to the standard 6- ft the selection of attractive curtains were limited. Solution= sew one myself! This project took me forever, and by the end of this sewing project my dining room looked like a sweat shop and I felt like a factory worker. haha. Not only did I find sewing such a huge heavy piece of fabric a bit challenging, but it was also my first experience using/installing grommets. But in the end I think the shower curtian came out better than I hoped and I am very proud of this creation!
Final Project:
Fabric Swatch:Second project: curtains and pillows for my den. I have a couple maroon pieces of furniture my parents gave me and I wanted to play down the color a bit. I found fabric that I thought was fun, feminine, and colorful that incorporated lots of colors, including the maroon color of my furniture. The curtains were SUPER simple, and they look it. Nothing great about them... Probably the least favorite thing about my den are the curtains-but they work. I also made pillows to match. I wanted to make these look nicer since I was so disappointed with my curtains. One way I knew to do that was to match the fabric with a nice trim. While these pillows were not cheap to make in the end, they are exactly what I wanted. I'm happy with how the turned out.As of now that are the only sewing projects I have tackled. I know more projects will come up. Right now I am playing around with a little bit of gardening for the first time.... We'll see how that one turns out.
I'm BACK!!!!
So it's offical, I'm back to the blog world. Lots has been going on in my life. I moved into my new house! (Pictures to come don't you worry.) My best friend moved away :( but luckily she has visited alot. Found out my sister is pregnant, shh it's a secret since it is so new and she just found out-she's not officially telling yet AKA putting it on facebook. Been watching alot of horse races... The Oaks, Derby, Steeplechase. The flood of Nashville which killed over 20 people, ruined many homes and businesses and has been a national disaster. I got a new roommate and had my house warming party. Just all kinds of things.... Where do I begin about everything. I guess one post at a time. :)
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