First it was a guy that had a deep aversion to the concept of faith and anyone that believed in God. 25 minutes in a heated debate and I knew that was the end of that potential relationship.
Then it was a guy with a major speech impediment. This fault I think I could get over. He seemed fun, had a good job, was cute and I think that the speech issue would eventually be invisible to me. But it is still something that stuck out to me.
Then I had the guy tell me he would love to "hook up" but he didn't actually want to date me. Really?! Okay Buh BYE!
And drum roll please. Totally had to save the best for last. Total cutie and physically was 100% my type. Tall, preppy and manly. My first impression was a really good one. He was funny, danced, had a job, and had a pretty decent group of friends he was with. Always a good sign. He asked and I gave him my number when he said he was leaving. At this point it seemed like a decent prospect. I was even excited when he decided to stay. Until he dropped the bomb on me.
And what did i find out when he stuck around you may ask?..... Yes this lovely gentlemen told me he had shot and killed someone that raped his cousin. He said he wasn't sorry for what he did and that he owed a bookie a substantial amount of money for his bail (he said 1.3 million). At this point I wasn't for sure what in the world was going on. I was scared, shocked, and wanted my number back but the talking just got worse. He told me how he grew up literally in the projects in east nashville and about his horrible child hood and how he had done some really bad things in his life. I wanted to run and hide. I tried to get my friends to save me from this stage five (murdering) clinger. I think literally the words out of my mouth were, "i'm a good girl. I don't do bad things". haha I am sure I had terror smeared across my face.
Am I a horrible person for making these judgements? Should I really judge someone on their past like that? It's not that I was technically judging him but I just don't want to date him or someone with those type of credentials. Anyways, all these stories have really had me evaluate what i want in a partner and clearly what I don't want.
Likes:
From a stable family/family oriented/similiar upbringing as myself
Went to college (preferably not community)/has his masters or more
Has a decent job and has goals
Someone that is not socially inept and is a fun person
Believes in God and has a similar morale code as myself
Honest, no liars, cheaters, flakes
Attractive.... even if it is just to some degree. I don't need brad pitt
Likes to travel, music, likes to splurge on occasion, spontaneous
Likes to be active (doesn't have to be lance armstrong or anything but not lazy is preferable) and enjoys sports
Giver-I'm a giver and resent those that aren't as thoughtful
Likes pets and can accept my Puddy Tat
Wants kids one day
Dislikes: They are generally the opposites to my likes but here are a few more.
Pompous (while being confident can be attractive, a big ego can also be a BIG turn off)
Is selfish and is a "taker", and is all ME ME ME.
Men with commitment issues
Complains about my friends. My friends are my family. Don't talk trash and make an effort to be their friend too
Men that can't or choose not to communicate. I prefer open books. Secrets don't make friends and definitely not lovers.
Is a liberal
Scared to get their hands dirty
Someone that is a baby, gets sick frequently, and whines all the time. No sir!
Dresses like a slob
Is dumb
NOT A CONVICTED FELON/MURDER/RAPIST/ABUSER/DRUG USER/ECT....
Now call me too picky if you must. And while some of them are just wants or strong dislikes if the right person were around I may be able to compromise on a few options but some of these i have learned are NON negotiable.
They do say you have to go through a lot of frogs before you find your prince. LOL
What's on your list?
I just really want to add two things to the Dislikes list:
ReplyDeleteSpends his evenings playing video games
Spends too much of his time focused on his interests in terms of TV and Movies and never is interested in watching a chick flick or girly show.